The Alternative to Soulmates: Solving Your Loneliness Problem

We all want to be loved. We search all our lives for that special person who will make our lives complete. There's an entire industry of books and videos and seminars centered on the themes of finding “true love” and “soul mates”.

Many years ago in his book Soul Mates, Thomas Moore summed up the concept by saying, “a soulmate is someone to whom we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that take place between us were not the product of intentional efforts, but rather a divine grace.” It is presented as a relationship where you will feel love and desire for this person no matter what and all conflicts will end in peaceful, loving and with both parties feeling satisfied.

We're told that once we find the right partner, we will never be alone or feel lonely again. Novels, movies, and even magazine articles state this as the goal for every relationship and claim that if you find anything less you are settling, that you deserve more. These idea leave us with even more questions: What happens if we do not find our soul mates? How do we fill that empty place inside? What if we have a relationship that does not quite fit the bill? What if we have committed our lives to someone who does not satisfy us and there is still a lonely place inside? How do we have a life of joy and fulfillment?