Many times when a couple seeks counseling they are in conflict, feeling anger, sadness and despair. When seeking counseling you are looking for love and meaning in your relationship. You are probably asking the questions, “What happened?” “ What went wrong?” “How could I have been so fooled by him or her?” You may even feel hopeless and like you have nothing to lose.

When we fall in love we believe that we have found the person with whom we can be safe and happy. It looks like everything is going to turn out all right. And it does...for a while. Then things begin to change. It seems that our partner is different that we thought they were. It turns out that they have qualities that we do not like and irritate us. We realize that our partner cannot or will not love and care for us like they promised. Our dream is shattered.

Disappointment turns to anger, fueled by fear and hurt. The POWER STRUGGLE begins. Since our partner will not give us what we want and need, we begin to fight. Somehow we will make them love us and give us what we want. If we can only make them see that they are wrong

IMAGO THERAPY is a couples therapy which was developed by Harvel Hendrix and his wife Helen Hunt. They believe that it is possible to have a satisfying relationship. A relationship in which you can learn to work out your differences in a way that each partner is heard and honored.

This is accomplished by learning some basic tools. The most important being THE COUPLES DIALOGUE. Using this technique, you will change the way you talk to one another. You will use this powerful communication tool so that what you say will be mirrored back to you, is validated, and is empathized with. Once a couple can learn to communicate, they can talk and resolve the conflicts in their relationship.

The end result is that life will become safer. You will learn to hear one another in a deeper and more fulfilling way. You will learn to love in a new and more meaningful way that does not depend on agreement but on mutual respect. Finally, you can relax.